( That has him rolling onto his back, peering up at Lan Xichen with narrow hawk-eyed attention. Maybe he should be sober for this conversation, or at least sitting upright. But he finds it's easier to talk to him like this right now, half obscured, gazing at his chin. )

If you want to then you should, but only if you want to. People get too caught up in the idea sometimes. ( Says, notable famed slut Wen Kexing, but he also thinks it's important for Lan Xichen to know that it isn't as insurmountable as all that. ) There's nothing wrong with not fucking, the same way I don't think a person should be judged for sleeping with anyone that takes their fancy.

( Easily. ) It doesn't have to be anything but what you want it to be.